The Chick Whisperer Podcast



In order to get women, you have to understand them first. For over eight consecutive years, The Chick Whisperer Podcast from X & Y Communications has been the gold standard for men of character who desire high quality women. Scot McKay and his expert co-hosts talk women, dating, sex, seduction and 21st century masculinity in a fast-paced and often hilarious style. Ask whatever questions you want 24/7 via voicemail at +1 (210) 362-4400. Visit and get free, actionable tips in your inbox that'll make you better with women starting today. | Please subscribe to the show to get updates automatically, and if you love the show definitely leave a review!


  • How To Be A Protector Of Women - MTP384

    01/12/2023 Duração: 41min

    Co-Host Beth Warford ( Who better to explain what makes a woman feel safe and protected than a woman who specializes in it? My guest is the founder of Pretty Loaded in North Dakota, and is dedicated to equipping both men AND women to be their own first responders. What do you need to be your own first responder? To that end, Beth starts off by showing you how you can use situational awareness every day. Why do criminals go after soft targets...and how can you be a hard target instead? Why is it imperative to talk with your partner about safety and come up with a plan? What are some pre-attack body language indicators? What do South Korean border guards do that we all can and should emulate (and it's easy)? Next up, I share a real-world security situation I encountered recently with Beth. What did I do right, and what could I have done better? Next, find out what is typically taught for the first half of concealed carry training, and why it's not surprising. And what are s

  • Love Women Again If You've Become Jaded - MTP383

    24/11/2023 Duração: 40min

    Co-Host Patrick James ( My guest is fellow dating coach for men and head honcho over at Raw Dating Advice, Patrick James. This time we hit a topic head-on that all too often is only covered with a negative twist. That, of course, is what to do if you've become jaded against women in general, or just discouraged from dating and relating to them. Unfortunately, almost every time you see this topic out there, it's because someone on YouTube is helping you throw yourself a pity party. Basically, there's WAY too much encouragement out there for men and women to stay away from each other...especially if we've just been through some sort of ordeal at the hands of a woman. But here's the thing, that mindset has 'victimhood' written all over it, and Patrick and I are in total agreement that's anti-masculine. I'm not going to keep you in suspense here. If you've started to feel yourself getting angry and bitter toward chicks, you have ONE choice. You have GOT to take your power back a

  • The Current State Of Social Skills - MTP382

    17/11/2023 Duração: 51min

    Co-Hosts Zach Browman and Devon Ash ( The guys from Social Fluency have teamed back up together after a lengthy hiatus, and they're appearing here on the show for the first time. Zach and Devon have long been known as the go-to social skill experts in the world of men's dating advice, so there's nobody better to have on board for a full-on, no-holds-barred discussion of what it's like out there socially in the real world nowadays. Not that many people are actually being social IRL at all, frankly. That's a focal point of the discussion. Basically, we all agreed that there was a pre-COVID state of social skills, then COVID locked us all down, leading to a post-COVID state...and NOW a new and different one is upon us. Could this new fourth iteration of the social climate out there be the 'new normal'? We sure hope not...and we'll tell you why. And what about online dating and apps? Social media in general? What is going on between men and women nowadays...especially very r

  • First Date Weirdness? You're Not Alone - MTP381

    10/11/2023 Duração: 36min

    Co-Host Emily McKay ( If you've been out there dating for any time at all, you've likely compiled your fair share of weird dating stories. It's easy to think that those situations could only happen to you, and you've GOT to be the only one. But guess what? PLENTY of apparent weirdness on first dates is tons more common than you probably guess. Emily joins me this time around to recount not only a few of our own most bizzaro stories, but those of others we've heard from over the years. You can likely guess we started off with tales of gross misrepresentation and false advertising online. That topic is closely followed by talk about those awkward instances when only one of you thinks the date went well. Backlash when it didn't go well? We've got you covered. What about when she won't go away quietly? And don't forget those completely inappropriate demonstrations of or impatience about sexuality up front...or the opposite, taking FOREVER to make a move. What if your date (

  • 7 Ways People Lie - MTP380

    03/11/2023 Duração: 44min

    Co-Host Lauren Zander ( My returning guest, life coach Lauren Zander, is a self-described truth teller, who according to her website 'upholds a take-no-prisoners brand of radical personal accountability'. So is it any surprise she's on a personal crusade to inform the world about the seven ways people lie? Seven may be a lucky number, but not in this Lauren boldly believes nobody should EVER lie, not even those 'little white lies' most of us see as socially acceptable, if not socially necessary. She observes that most of us KNOW when we're being lied to, even if we only sense it without being able to put of finger on exactly how. Lauren also wouldn't fall for the old PUA question of, 'Who lies more, men or women?' as she firmly believes ALL of us lie, whoever we are. Therefore, her list is not gender specific. So first off, why ARE social lies allegedly designed to keep conversation light and friendly really a bad thing? Next comes my theory on how there are two

  • Halloween Tips You Can Use With Women All Year Long - MTP379

    27/10/2023 Duração: 34min

    Co-Host Tripp Kramer aka 'Tripp Advice' ( After all these years, finally here's an episode about meeting women on Halloween. But careful...if you listen even a little bit closely, you'll discover plenty of golden tips you can use when meeting and interacting with women all year 'round. This all started when I asked my mastermind group who was up for this discussion, and none other than Tripp Kramer responded immediately. As it turns out, even after running a podcast himself for nine years and compiling over a million followers on YouTube, he hadn't covered Halloween nearly enough either. So we get started by dropping some serious tips for meeting women at Halloween parties. This isn't just about what to dress up as and how to talk to women about their costumes, however. There's plenty in there you can parlay into pickup success all year. Meanwhile, what are some of the biggest mistakes men make during the Halloween holiday? What is going to make you stand out in a field of

  • How To Be Interesting - MTP378

    20/10/2023 Duração: 39min

    Co-Host Chase Amante ( Finally, after 16 years of production, we're getting around to doing a show on being an interesting man. It's an elusive term, isn't it? And most of us know far too few truly interesting people--whatever that means. Consider how 'The Most Interesting Man In The World' himself, from the beer commercials, failed to be replaced by anyone who could touch how genuinely interesting he was. Nevertheless, the quest to be interesting is a valid one, and indeed attainable. With me today to break it all down is my friend Chase Amante from Girls Chase, who has given the subject plenty of thought. We start the whole thing off with the number one most misunderstood factor when it comes to being interesting--which most men get exactly backwards. Next, we've all heard that 'mysterious' men are interesting. Yeah, do you do that without being creepy? Does finding common ground with a woman really make you more interesting? Let's say you really do have tons

  • Your Superpower To Attract Women - MTP377

    13/10/2023 Duração: 38min

    Co-Host Mary Beth Robinson ( My guest literally has a super-cool specialty. She's an expert on helping you find your superpower. Here's the deal. Women seem to generally be better at getting acknowledged and acknowledging each other for who they are. But meanwhile, we as men are often acknowledged specifically for what we accomplish. We're rarely seen for who we are. That doesn't change the simple fact that men NEED and WANT that. And it makes a huge difference in both our very sense of identity and our confidence level. That's where Mary Beth Robinson steps in, helping people find their very own superpower...the most powerful and effective feature of WHO THEY are. From there, what to DO with that superpower comes next. See how cool that is? So then, how DO you find your superpower? Why do people often completely dismiss their superpower, even after they know what it is? What does Mary Beth mean, exactly, when she says, 'If you don't use your superpower, it will use you

  • A Divorce Lawyer Dates After Divorce - MTP376

    06/10/2023 Duração: 53min

    Co-Host Seth Nelson ( My guest is a divorce lawyer in Florida with quite an interesting distinction. Not only has he himself been divorced, he has recently gotten married again...this time to a girl he's known since elementary school. Now, how can a guy like Seth who sees the flotsam and jetsam of the Florida family law system on a daily basis keep from becoming cynical about marriage in general? I mean, he has as good an excuse for becoming a MGTOW as anyone. Well, wait until you hear Seth's somewhat surprising view in support of marriage, and of having a quality woman by one's side. You'll also find out how Seth bounced back from his own divorce and what he did to minimize the chances of ever having to go through it a second time. Hint: The story will sound familiar. Next, discover the all-important secret of how Seth got out of the 'just be friends zone' with the woman who is now his wife. In Seth's opinion, what's the number one breakdown in relationships leading to div

  • Mental Sharpness Attracts Women - MTP375

    29/09/2023 Duração: 37min

    Co-Host Dr. Anthony Balduzzi ( The importance of mental sharpness as a man isn't focused upon nearly enough in general. But what almost NEVER gets covered is how important it is to attracting women and keeping them attracted. Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is a men's health doctor who specializes in maximizing your physical health for overall effectiveness. That means he has distanced himself from the 'sick care' culture prevalent nowadays in healthcare. One of the most significant parts of his practice is helping men identify the causes of the 'brain fog' that affects a frightening number of us nowadays, eliminate it if it affects us and--most of all--prohibit it from happening in the first place. For starters, how much of what's going on here can be attributed to "Long Covid", as kind of a sub-pandemic? Tune in as Dr. Balduzzi explains a whole host of different factors that affect mental acuity nowadays, leaving us to wonder how any of us as men can keep our wits about us at a

  • The Second Date - MTP374

    22/09/2023 Duração: 41min

    Co-Host Cyndi Olin ( Sometimes even after nearly 400 episodes, it occurs to me that we've let a reasonably important topic somehow slip through the cracks after all these years. This time we're catching up on the idea of second dates. It all started when my long-time friend and erstwhile Clubhouse colleague Cyndi Olin wrote an excellent article to her mostly female audience about why men don't ask women out again after the first date. Although she warned her readers the real reasons aren't what they may seem, it occurred to me that plenty of us as men can't always put our finger on the 'why' there, either. So naturally, we kick off the show by hashing that question out. Then, Cyndi herself brings up the idea of what I call 'warm levity'...and the version of it she teaches women. Where should you go on the second date, and what questions should the two of you ask each other? What changes if you're not exactly relationship-minded right now? Do people sometimes go out on secon

  • Seduction Should Be Delicious - MTP373

    15/09/2023 Duração: 44min

    Co-Host Joe Gatto ( As you may know, I not only love to cook, I have always loved cooking for women. Having that ability is like holding the codes for the nuclear weapon of attraction, and I've literally written the book on the subject. So you may be wondering why it has taken me so freaking long to talk about it on this show. Well, as is typically the case, it's all about having the right guest. Joe Gatto is a celebrity chef on radio and TV who absolutely, positively agrees that we as men gain a legit superpower when we can cook for the woman in our life. In fact, he'll be the first to tell you how women love a man who can cook, because that's exactly how he got his wife to adore him. Now listen, even though Chef Gatto is well-known for making everything from scratch (including his utensils and even his charcoal), he's completely on board for making this all-conquering skill as simple as possible for you to learn. Stay tuned for practical steps to wowing women with your ap

  • End Stubborn Patterns Of Failure - MTP372

    08/09/2023 Duração: 32min

    Co-Host Michael Allison ( Whether we realize it or not, any adversity and trauma we experience earlier in life tends to have a deeply detrimental effect on both our mindset and our relationships later. My guest's story is about as clear a demonstration of that dynamic possible, which alone makes it worth hearing. But the flat-out truth is Michael Allison has faced more ordeals--sometimes one after the other--than most of us have had to endure. Yet, he ultimately refused to quit, and refused to be a victim. Nowadays, he's living his best life and wants the same for every man within the sound of his voice. So, how did Michael bounce back from years of struggle...emerging with a growth mindset rather than what he calls a 'fixed' mindset? What does it mean to 'break the bottle'? Why is it actually easier to be vulnerable when you should be than most guys expect? Is a long-term relationship with a high-quality woman truly the ultimate 'status symbol'? And while I often say a

  • Creeps And Weirdos - MTP371

    01/09/2023 Duração: 28min

    Co-Host Emily McKay ( Every one of us has found ourselves out on a date with someone who creeped us out. And's not gender-specific. But what does 'creepy' even mean? Why is it often so hard to define? Well, in this episode Emily joins me to break down exactly what constitutes such infamous creepy behavior...and how it tends to impact men and women differently. Is it possible some people don't even realize they're being creepy? Do others know for sure they are in fact creeps, but like it that way? What's more, why is it perfectly normal guys are often so concerned they're going to come across as creepy? How do we relax and avoid that worry...lest it weirdly become a self-fulfilling prophecy? What is the difference between male creepy behavior and the female version? How many women out there have somehow convinced themselves it's impossible for them to be creepy? Stay tuned for the one shining example of how the absolute best of intentions can actually backfire spectac

  • Some Men Never Grow Up Sexually - MTP370

    25/08/2023 Duração: 42min

    Co-Host Sydney Richdale ( This episode features returning guest and sexpert Sydney Richdale. As promised, Sydney offers her uniquely female perspective on how men can grow up but not necessarily reach an evolved, mature sexual mindset. Fasten your seat belts because this indeed is a VERY different episode than last week's edition. Sydney gets as practical and objective as possible, throwing down some actionable ways we as men can supercharge our sexual presence with women in ways few men ever get to enjoy the results of. For starters, we agree that there's a time and place for the most primal, visceral and even selfish aspects of human sexuality. But it shouldn't be to the exclusion of what gives sexual relationships a whole lot more depth and meaning. So then, what are those more 'evolved' elements, if you will? In order to express mature male sexuality, must every sexual experience be relationshippy and about falling in love long-term? What does it mean to be 'connect

  • Are You An Evolved Sexual Man? - MTP369

    18/08/2023 Duração: 38min

    Co-Host Michael McPherson ( Most men generally view the concept of human sexuality through the scope of getting laid. As long as they're 'getting some', that's really the point. But deep down, all of us know there's potentially much more than that to a sexual relationship with a woman. My returning guest is an expert on human sexuality who has--like all of us--been on a lifelong journey of sexual evolution. But how are we doing on that journey? It's obvious that even many who call themselves 'sexperts' aren't all that far along the path. How much of this phenomenon of sexually under-evolved men is tied to our view of women in general? Do we consider the value and/or even the ramifications of being in a sexual relationship with a woman above and beyond the physical sex act? Even if 'crazy p*ssy is the best p*ssy', what does 'best' even mean in that context? How can knowing the difference between sexuality and sex energy help matters? How much has societal influence on m

  • Too Busy For Women - MTP368

    11/08/2023 Duração: 51min

    Co-Host Julie Ferman ( My guest is a well-known matchmaker who I should have had on the show ages ago, in large part because in many ways she's like my sister from a different mother. She's hilarious, unoffendable and agrees with me on most of the dating and relationship stuff we talk about around here. So with a wild woman like Julie on the mic, you know we needed to bring the noise with a great topic. Therefore, in this show we're covering how both men and women always seem to be too busy to date nowadays. What's the deal? Do people really get way too wadded up in their careers, friends and other adventurous pastimes such that they never get around to sharing life with someone else...even for a couple of hours? Is it that porn and social media have replaced real people? Is it that nowadays we can't even be bothered with anyone else anymore in general? Or it really all about making excuses? After all, as soon as two busy people meet and fall for each other, the

  • Is Alcohol Worth The Trouble? - MTP367

    04/08/2023 Duração: 38min

    Co-Host Ruari Fairbairns ( We as men tend to have a complicated relationship with alcohol. My guest, Ruari Fairbairns is well aware of that. That's why even though he's a professional advocate for drinking less, he comes from a completely different perspective than the tee-totaller activists out there who would seem to label anyone with a beer in their hand as an alcoholic. Indeed, despite the catchy title of his practice, One Year No Beer, Ruari still occasionally pops the top himself. If that sounds hypocritical, it's not. His is no heavy-handed, all-or nothing stance. Rather, he brings the unique message of encouraging us as men in particular to change our relationship with alcohol. In his educated opinion, over time alcohol robs us of our mental and physical health to a degree we don't even realize. Once we give ourselves a break from it, we start thinking and feeling better...causing us to WANT to drink less (if at all), instead of feeling as if we're being strongarmed

  • Get Back Out There And Meet Some Women - MTP366

    28/07/2023 Duração: 34min

    Co-Host Richard Strother ( My guest Richard Strother calls himself The Widower's Wingman. And indeed, after he lost is wife tragically several years ago, Richard noticed there was very little valuable information out there for men who had lost their significant other, specifically as it applied to potential new relationships with women. But lest you bail out of this episode because that specific issue doesn't affect you, it turns out Richard has a lot to offer about getting back out there after any previous relationship ends, whether that's because of breakup, divorce OR widowhood. So then, should you really just simply 'get back out there'...or wait like a full year or whatever to do so like many recommend? And on a related note, why is it so frustrating to get all that advice from well-meaning friends and relatives right after your loss? And I mean, why should any man even want a new relationship after a special one ends? It's not like you're really going to get a 're

  • Are You Kinkier Than You Think? - MTP365

    21/07/2023 Duração: 40min

    Co-Host Dana Shergill ( My guest refers to herself as a 'kinky wellness coach', and she's quite sure most of us as humans are a lot naughtier, sexier and yes--even kinkier--than we give ourselves credit for, let alone admit. So with that in mind, you can already guess that Dana Shergill is outspoken, unashamed and downright unoffendable. And that combination always makes for a great show, especially when we're welcoming a female guest. So on with it, then...what does a kinky wellness coach actually do for a living? What does Dana mean when she says kinkiness is an outlet for aggression, imagination and attention? Why is that so important? And wait a minute...isn't 'aggression' a dangerous term to use when applied to men and sexuality? Meanwhile, when it comes to sex, does any flavor other than vanilla classify as 'kinky'? And can it possibly true that women are every bit as naughty and potentially kinky as men are? If so, what's holding them back from expressing it? Pornogr

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