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  • The Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 17

    16/05/2019 Duração: 04min

    Today I want to talk to you about figuring out who people are, using simple tools like search engines online. Always a good first step to start building the image of the person you are trying to figure out.   First I want to tell you that all the things you find are clues to build the image of the person you are trying to figure out. Try to see it from an as objective place as you can, it will help you get a better idea.   Many years ago I got divorced. When I was looking for an attorney to represent me I did some digging on them before making my choice. When I googled the lawyer I ended up working with I found a hate blog dedicated to spewing anger and hateful rhetoric about him. I went further down the rabbit hole and found that the person writing the blog was a guy whose ex wife had been represented by the lawyer in their divorce. In this case, negative publicity helped me make the decision to hire this guy. Negative information isn’t always bad, it helps paint the picture.   So when you google someone, lo

  • The Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 16

    09/05/2019 Duração: 04min

    Today we are going to talk about something we sometimes hear from our families. That the nanny is dressed inappropriately.   So let’s start from the beginning. What is inappropriate? That depends on the situation.   Have you ever heard the expression dress for the job you want to have? When I get reported to me that nannies are dressed in short skirts, low cut tops and over the knee boots, I am not sure what job they are applying for.   To be clear, I don’t think there is anything categorically wrong dressing in any way at all. I used to go to clubs where clothing was optional or sometimes plastic wrap, I’m pretty jaded on the shock scale when it comes to dressing in alternative ways, but I do think there is a time and a place for everything.   So when you are applying for a job as a nanny, what should you wear? I would say, to start, go conservative and neutral. Then read the situation and go from there. I once had a manny interview with me who showed up in a suit and tie. I wondered, what does he think the

  • The Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 15

    02/05/2019 Duração: 04min

    Today we are going to talk about the simplest way to kindness and compassion. It’s something that means a lot to me. I try to do it every chance I get :)   I hear comments from both nannies and families, as well as parents and kids, it’s all connected, about how they want to be appreciated. How they want to be heard and seen. Acknowledged, as they are.   It is quite rare that people ask for or expect expensive gifts or big bonuses as a token of appreciation. I’m sure lots of people want that too, but from my anecdotal collection of data it seems more important to most people to be seen and heard than to get material compensation as a thank you for being awesome.   What all these people want is to be seen and appreciated. I would even go so far as to say that all people want to be seen and appreciated for what is important to them. A mother wants to be appreciated as a good mother to her kids. She wants her efforts seen and heard. Professionals want to be acknowledged for the work they do whether it is launchi

  • The Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 13

    18/04/2019 Duração: 04min

    Welcome to the Nanny Podcast, I am Hanna Schaer from Riviera Nannies. I am so happy you are here :)   Today we are going to talk about governesses.   Sometimes there is a bit of confusion to what a governess is. We recently had a client say they needed a housekeeper or a governess. That’s kind of like saying you need bananas or batteries. Completely different things :)   So let’s talk about what a governess is and isn’t.   A governess is a teacher. It is a quite old fashioned position in a household that is much less common now than it was in Victorian England. A governess is responsible for a child’s education and usually looks after older kids than a nanny does, but a governess can work with children as young as three. Often there is a nanny working in parallel with a governess because their duties are quite different.   A governess is traditionally responsible for the children’s education, whether it is a well rounded knowledge in English, Maths, Music and the Arts or social things like etiquette and manne

  • The Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 12

    11/04/2019 Duração: 05min

    This week we are going to talk about some of the differences between nanny and daycare as childcare options. This is I suppose geared towards families making the choice, and can be helpful for nannies both as a perspective, but also to have a leg to stand on when negotiating and talking to a family.   The first thing that we should talk about is the big elephant in the room, cost.   Having a private nanny for your child is most likely going to cost you a lot more than if they were in daycare. But not always. Depending on how many hours you do it will make more or less of a difference, but in general, a nanny is more expensive than daycare.   The second big question for me as a parent is how much your kid is going to be sick when they are little. There are many variables there, but in general a child in daycare is sick a lot more than one that is with a nanny. But of course, if you are lucky enough to find a daycare where parents don’t bring their kids when they are sick and follow good guidelines, then they m

  • The Nanny Podcast season 2, episode 11

    04/04/2019 Duração: 05min

    Today we are going to talk about what you ask when you are interviewing, either with an agency, or for a job.   I have a pretty radical view on collaborations that most people don’t have. Are you ready? I don’t believe in hierarchy. At least not in the traditional sense. I don’t think anyone is above or below, I think we all bring value and that it would benefit us all to see that value in each other.   So that’s my radical belief. What do you think?   Some people might think that when I say that they are welcome to sweep in and do whatever in my business, family or wherever we are moving. That’s not true. Lack of this particular structure does not mean lack of integrity. Just getting that out of the way.   So when I hire childcare it is with the understanding that they need a job, I need their service. When a client comes to me, they need a nanny, my business needs clients and we happen to provide what they need. We are in symbiosis. It is very tempting to try to take advantage of this situation, but it’s no

  • The Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 10

    28/03/2019 Duração: 05min

    I think imagining different fictional people in their jobs, why they are there, what kind of personalities they have and what brought them to where they are is really fun. So I thought, today we are going to talk about Becky Sharp, the fictional governess in Vanity Fair. Becky is thought to be a composite inspired by several real women. And that isn’t really surprising to me, what do you think?   Becky Sharp is the first time a governess was the main character of a story, she was poor without social status, and typically at the time her friend Amelia would have been the main character.   So Becky does something that with the tweaks and twirls of time and culture still happens today, doesn’t it? From a cynical point of view we can read her as being a ruthless opportunist who uses people as stepping stones in her quest to climb the social ladder to riches and glamour. I have seen it in the CVs I get from people from marginalized countries with no childcare experience who say “I will take any job in Monaco”. (ju

  • Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 9

    21/03/2019 Duração: 05min

    Today we are going to talk about something that is kind of a pet peeve of mine, and I have been guilty of it myself as a parent. I am talking about how we expect our kids to do what we say not what we do.   Any experienced parent or nanny will know that this is not how kids learn and work. Right?   I find that when I don’t back up my talk with walk my kids see and know it right away, I can’t fool them, even if I can briefly fool myself that I am not full of it.   Showing our kids that we are real people with flaws and feelings is I think one of the most important things we can do for them. I will explain what I mean. If my kids say or do something that hurts my feelings, or that hurts me physically, I tell them. If they say something rude or unkind, or act dismissively with epic eye rolls, I tell them how it makes me feel. Not overly dramatic, but letting them know that they are not invisible, that their actions have an impact on people around them is essential for them to grow up to be empathic and kind peop

  • The Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 8 "Mary Poppins"

    14/03/2019 Duração: 06min

    Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 8 “Mary Poppins”   Welcome to the Nanny Podcast, my name is Hanna Schaer from Riviera Nannies and I am your host today. I am so happy you are here :)   Today we are going to talk about Mary Poppins, the fictional super nanny that we have followed on her mission and adventures in two movies now, based on the books by P. L Travers. Disney has brought the stories to the big screen and into our homes in the most Disney of ways.   I hadn’t watched the first movie until a few years before I started Riviera Nannies. I had a friend who just couldn’t believe that I hadn’t watched it and it kind of became an event between us when I did. Thank you James for insisting I watch it and for introducing me to the amazing world of Mary Poppins :)   I think there are so many things in Mary Poppins that are great guiding principles for both parents and nannies, so many lessons and learning moments in big and small things. I definitely feel both inspired and validated as an adult spending a lot of t

  • The Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 7 "Ending a job"

    07/03/2019 Duração: 05min

    Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 7 “ending a job”   Welcome to this week’s episode of The Nanny Podcast, my name is Hanna Schaer from Riviera Nannies and I am your host. I am so happy you are here.     Today we are going to talk about ending a job. We get questions about this from nannies from time to time, often from nannies we haven’t placed.   This might sound strange, but how you will end your job has a lot to do with how you started it. Did you feel a good connection with the family? Did you feel like you had a good and honest line of communication?   Ok, so let’s break it down.   You want to end a job. There are lots of reasons why people want to end a job. Let’s say you have decided that you want to take your career in a different direction and you want to look for a job that is a better fit for you.   Of course it could also be that you want to earn more money, that you want to work different hours and you want your tasks to be different.   Then maybe you don’t want to end the job bur rather renegotiate

  • Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 6 "Nanny as educator"

    28/02/2019 Duração: 09min

    Nanny podcast season 2 episode 6 “nanny as educator”   Welcome to this week’s episode of The Nanny Podcast, my name is Hanna Schaer from Riviera Nannies and I am your host. I am so happy you are here.   Today we are going to talk about the nanny as educator. I think that when a lot of families think about hiring a nanny or even hire a nanny they think about it as someone who is going to look after their kids and keep them safe. But you and I know that there are benefits way beyond keeping safe and looking after when it comes to what a nanny can do for your family and your child’s education.   As a nanny you have a huge responsibility, not only to keep your kids safe, but to set a good example and emotionally nurture the kids. And to teach them. We know that kids do what we do, not what we say, so setting a good example in your behavior is so important. That’s also why parents who are hiring a nanny should look for how a nanny carries herself, how she communicates and how she interacts, that is what will impri

  • Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 5

    21/02/2019 Duração: 05min

    Welcome to the Nanny Podcast, I am so happy you are here. Today I am going to tell you about a request we have gotten in different variations that always leave me with more questions and feelings than others might. The request is, I want an ugly nanny. First of all, we do not have any ugly nannies. I have met very few ugly people in my life, it’s hard for me to even think of someone ugly, and this is about to get a little personal, so be warned. You know how we say that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder? What does categorizing people as ugly or not ugly say about you? I am guessing that the people asking for ugly nannies have a few things going on, first they have decided what is visually appealing in a person, my guess is that they don’t know or understand a lot about personality or charisma, which is what most people are ultimately attracted to, but they base their judgement on a person’s physique, facial features and grooming habits, maybe? If they met me what would they think? Their ugly algorithm wou

  • Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 4

    14/02/2019 Duração: 04min

    Welcome to the Nanny Podcast, I’m Hanna from Riviera Nannies, I am so happy you are here today.   Today I wanted to talk about a complaint that I sometimes see from families, that their nanny is always sick.   I think there are two ways to see and talk about this.   First, is your nanny ok? Is she getting sick from your kid and is she ok? Is she really sick or is she not happy coming to work? For most issues, talking about it and having good communication with your nanny will resolve a lot of problems, so first, talk to her. What is going on with her?   I know how frustrating it can be as a family when you depend on your nanny for your work and to make sure that your kids are well taken care of. There is so much guilt and feelings of not being enough as a parent anyhow, you have hired a nanny because you want your kids taken care of, and now she is not there as consistently as you need. How can you support yourself and your nanny for this to work?   Talk to her. Ask her if there is anything she needs? You get

  • Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 3

    07/02/2019 Duração: 37min

    D is one of our nannies, she is wonderful, kind and experienced.  In this episode she shares her story of her nannying with us.  Enjoy :)

  • Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 2

    31/01/2019 Duração: 08min

    Welcome to the Nanny Podcast season 2 episode 2. I am your host Hanna Schaer from Riviera Nannies, a nanny agency based in the south of France. I am so happy you are here.   Today we are going to talk about cell phones.   I think we can all agree that cell phones are really useful tools, we can choose to do a little or a lot on them. Some people use them just as phones. Some phone and text. Some use them as a camera. Some use them for social media.   I went to a really interesting talk with Elizabeth Milovidov from about children and technology, and I thought her talk was really inspiring. I am not going to talk to you in this podcast about children and technology, but about us and technology. There are a lot of similarities though, and the most important points are the same.   I think technology is awesome. Thanks to technology you are listening to me now, I recorded this on my computer, edited it on user friendly software and brought it to you through syndication to your iTunes or

  • Nanny Podcast, season 2 episode 1

    24/01/2019 Duração: 06min

    Welcome to season 2 of the Nanny Podcast, I am so happy you are here.   Today we are going to ask ourselves the question “are you looking for the wrong things?”   It goes for both nannies and families, I think often nannies are looking for the wrong things in families to work with, and as often, families are looking for things in nannies that is not what is going to work for them.   Let me explain what I mean.   I get a lot of nannies contacting us, looking for work, and when they tell us what kind of work they want, to goal and the path to get there are often not compatible.   For example, we might have a nanny who wants to work in the villas in the cote d’azur, but she doesn’t drive, doesn’t have own transportation and is not interested in getting it. Fair enough, whatever the reason is for that, but looking for jobs in the villas is not going to work out in their favor, because often there is not public transportation that supports it, and the client might is probably not going to want to schedule their ch

  • The Nanny Podcast episode 11 "Why should I pay for a cleaner?"

    15/05/2018 Duração: 06min

    One time I had a prospective client tell me after we had done her intake interview, filled out all the forms and she had told me exactly what she wanted, which was an au pair, we will get to that in a minute, and I told her that we could find the staff she needed, it just wouldn’t be one person, but two or three. We have talked about what au pairs are before, they are a cultural exchange program, not a professional doing a job, so while at first it seemed to this family that what they wanted and needed was an au pair, their kids were at school during the day and the parents travel a lot and work out of the area where they live, when the list of duties and the schedule arrived I wasn’t sure what to answer except no, that’s not an au pair, that’s a part time nanny, a cook and a housekeeper. Without going into too much detail about what they wanted let’s just say that the cleaning duties went far past the kid related clean up and meal prep. When the kids were in school all day they wanted the house deep cleaned,

  • The Nanny Podcast episode 10, talking to Theresa Destrebecq about getting along

    08/05/2018 Duração: 33min

    Theresa Destrebecq is back to talk to us about getting along. Theresa is a conflict resolution coach and will talk to us about how we can be more successful and get along better in professional relationships.

  • The Nanny Podcast episode 9 "I want a French live out au pair"

    01/05/2018 Duração: 05min

    I want a french live out au pair Sometimes we get requests that are difficult, sometimes we get requests that are confusing and sometimes we get requests that are impossible and illegal. Even though we don’t place au pairs, we still get a lot of questions about them. I think most people think an au pair is a cheap way to get childcare, it is not, and I will explain why in a minute, but most of all I think a lot of people don’t know the difference between an au pair and a nanny so we will talk a little bit about that. An au pair is not a professional. Having an au pair is a cultural exchange program, and this is where a lot of misunderstandings happen. An au pair does not have any training or experience (babysitting is not experience) in general. Generally they do not know about childhood development or education, they are young people who want to experience another culture and learn a new language in a foreign country. The laws are different in different countries, but normally, an au pair can work up to 30 h

  • The Nanny Podcast Episode 8 "Interview with Carole the Nanny"

    24/04/2018 Duração: 23min

    One of our awesome nannies shares her thoughts on nannying, what motivates and inspires her and what she thinks is important in the nanny-family relationship.  

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